Procrastination. Laziness. Excuse. Call it what you will but I often find myself always wanting someone to help me with something. Like I always expect someone-anyone?- to be gung ho about my latest grand idea. I expect ideas to be revealed, shared, revised and things to happen. BOOM! Let’s do it. And then I let my disappointment in the fact that there is no help detour my original goal of wanting to do something.
“I want to lose weight- I just need someone to go to the gym with to get started.”
Why? Why does anyone else need to care about my ever expanding waistline.
“Oh if I just had some help with this project, it could really take off.”
#Welp . You better pay somebody to do the work who doesn’t care and is just doing their job and stop waiting for someone to give a damn about your little “project that could”.
Stop waiting for friends and family to support. Stop waiting for your husband or significant other to jump on top of the kitchen counter and scream, “YESSSSSSSSS” every time you tell him your next big idea. I mean if your husband is yelling YESSSSSSSSSS anywhere you might want to side eye him and this relationship anyway. IJS.
The point is stop letting your ability to reach your next goal depend on other’s who is riding your “YOU CAN DO IT TRAIN.” Just because your best friend works a 9-5 everyday and can’t come help you set up for that event doesn’t mean she doesn’t support you. She just may have her own stuff to deal with like those 4 kids and a mortgage. Now some don’t support you. And that’s going to happen. But everyone isn’t your hater or your nemesis. You can have people who are very close to you and don’t even know what you do. They won’t even respond to a post about your latest achievement with your business but if you post about getting a raise at your “Regular job” -well they can relate to that and here come the 378 likes. You post a new picture – hell on Facebook it can even be an old picture. And Walla Magic it has received 153 likes but you post some shoes you are selling and see what happens. NADA.
So stop putting it off. And be prepared to hustle. Be prepared to every bit of the work yourself. Be prepared to never hear, “Good Job!”, to never get an order from your favorite Auntie or be butt hurt when the catalog or business cards you gave them ends up in the trash or left on the sofa after they leave. They don’t get you and it’s ok. Your friend sees that you are fat but she is not obligated to rid herself of her own weight to support your vegan health kick. You can’t let this derail your destiny, trip up your trajectory or f$&k up your focus. KEEP IT MOVING!
If you want to go back to school, you don’t need anyone to go that admission fair with you. Get up and go by yourself. Shoot these days you don’t need anyone to do anything-including having a baby. In the spirit of my new “SOLO GET IT DONE” attitude, I just may head on down to the sperm bank and get one of those too. By my damn self…
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