Stacy S. Crawley knows what it is to struggle with low self-esteem and self-doubt. But she also knows the power of getting past those lows and finding her power and God- given purpose. This mother of four walks the walk and talks the talk and works tirelessly to help others do the same. Let’s meet her.
Tell us about your role as an Empowerment Coach.
As an Empowerment Coach, I believe it is my role to pour into and transform the lives of the women God bring in my path. It is my purpose to adjust their crown as well as give them the tools to see themselves in a different light…God’s light. It is my role to provide them with the tips, strategies and actionable steps to take in order to ignite their confidence, reclaim their power, boldly step into their purpose and become the women God called and created them to be.
With four daughters, what is your golden rule for creating four future women of excellence who will have the knowledge to sidestep many obstacles you faced from a mother who lost her way so they didn’t have to?
My golden rule is to teach them to love and trust God first and then love and trust themselves second. See, when you learn to put God first in all that you do, take care of yourself, protect your peace, and see yourself the way God sees you, you’ll never settle for less than what He has already destined for your life. Yes, life may throw things your way, but when you know who you are and whose you are, you’ll move differently in life because you’ll know how to activate your faith.
You have experienced domestic violence firsthand. How did that period of pain equip the Stacy we know now?
Wow, that period of pain was probably one of the most excruciating experiences I’ve ever dealt with in my life. I felt hopeless, depressed, defeated, disrespected and unloved. And though it was hard, I thank God for the lessons and blessings from that experience. I learned so much about myself, more specifically how my unhealed childhood trauma allowed me to attract this type of energy into my life and deal with it for so long. I’ve had my valley moments where I’ve cried until my eyes burned because I didn’t quite understand why my reality didn’t match the vision I had for my life. And through it all I’ve learned to love myself, work with my therapist to do the inner work to heal, protect my peace at all costs, and keep God first in everything I do. And now, I’m able to walk confidently with head held high knowing that I am loved, phenomenal, beautiful, and highly blessed and favored.
Knowing what you know now, what would you say to your 20-something self that you think would change the entire trajectory of your life?
I would tell her to slow down and get to know herself, so she could heal from her past and understand who she is and what she brings to the table. I would tell her to never settle for less than God’s best for her. Lastly, I would tell her to give herself grace and to release the need/expectation to be perfect, because she is amazing just as she is.
On your blog, you recently discussed setting healthy boundaries. Why is this important for women?
Setting boundaries is something that in my opinion women struggle with often. We want to be everything to everyone, and it leads to burn out, depression, anxiety, and frustration (just to name a few) which keeps us from operating at our best. However, when you set boundaries, you are showing yourself the ultimate form of self-love and self-care. You learn to say “no” without giving an explanation. You learn to put your needs first without feeling guilty. And guess what…you’re able to show up as the best version of you for yourself and your family, because you certainly can’t pour from an empty cup.
How did you heal from your own traumas in order to edify others or are you a constant work in progress and improvement?
I would say that I’ve done a lot of healing, however, I’m still a work in progress and constantly improving day by day. And I thank God that my story and my life experiences thus far have equipped me with the ability, knowledge, and fortitude to exalt and uplift my fellow sister. See, I wholeheartedly believe that my breakthrough is tied to someone else’s destiny and what I’ve experienced, it happened to me, but I know that someone else will be able to relate and in turn experience their own transformation.
Tell us about your book, The Unvoiced Pain: Releasing Depression and Anxiety.
The Unvoiced Pain: Releasing Depression and Anxiety is a book collaboration project with my fellow amazing co-authors where we are telling our own personal stories of trial and triumph as it pertains to overcoming our individual bouts of depression and anxiety. These stories are real, authentic, relatable, and truly transformational. Be sure to grab your copy today at https://stacyscrawley.com/books.
How can readers find out more information about you, your services and upcoming projects?
Readers can:
- Follow me on Instagram (www.instagram.com/stacyscrawley)
- Facebook (www.facebook.com/stacyscrawley), and Linked In (www.linkedin.com/in/stacyscrawley)
- Check out my website at https://stacyscrawley.com for more info on my coaching/speaking services
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