How to Stay Positive When Trying to Conceive

When you first start talking to your significant other about the idea of making a baby, there’s so much excitement you could fill up the room with joy and those butterflies in your belly. What the world often fails to tell you is that not everyone takes the same amount of time to conceive, or the same manner, and that there are so many things that can make it complicated and cause you stress along the way. For women who’ve been there, they know how much the support of their loved ones and their self-care rituals have meant to help them cope and move forward. It’s a process, often a stressful one, even more often filled with unexpected twists and turns no one can prepare you for.

To stay positive means to give yourself a better chance at conceiving, and a better chance at enjoying the entire process. It also means making a conscious effort to shift your mindset and to gain a better control of your thought processes, as well as your habits and everyday actions. Here are a few tips to help you on your way to motherhood and conception, in the hopes of putting a smile on your face, whatever your journey may bring!

Craft your menu carefully

The old adage that we are what we eat neatly sums up how we can change our mood and help build up greater emotional stability with the right foods. In fact, your diet also plays a role in aiding conception, so you’d be actively making a difference in both of those relevant segments of your life: your mood will be better, you’ll have more energy, and you’ll give your body precisely what it needs from Mother Nature to increase your chances of conception.

For starters, it’s best to reduce or eliminate your vices, such as smoking, drinking, or binge-eating sweets like there’s no tomorrow. Yes, so many of us reach for a box of donuts when we’re hit by bad news, but finding less self-destructive ways to cope will help your body and your mind. Opt for nutrient-dense, whole foods such as fruits and vegetables, loaded with vitamins and minerals to balance your hormones and help in fighting inflammation.

Introduce mindfulness meditation

When you’re feeling powerless while you wait for that stick to turn blue, doing nothing may be the hardest thing on the planet for you to even consider – and yet, it’s often exactly what you need to do if you want to help yourself de-stress. However, mindfulness achieved through meditation is far from “doing nothing”. It’s giving yourself the time to process all those emotions rushing through your body, time to breathe and regain composure, time to recognize that your thoughts might be a train-wreck.

It’s your time to recognize all of it and still love yourself through it all, because you’re entitled to feel all those mixed emotions, and you’re allowed to have your own process. Meditation is your safe space for processing, embracing, and moving past your innermost turmoil, to make room for a more positive mindset that will help you enjoy the process.

Build your own support system

Every time you visit the doctor’s office for another confusing exam or receive another equally puzzling instruction to follow, you’ll often feel alone. Because you are alone in the process of getting to know your body and all those not-so-lovely complications that might delay the bun in the oven, and it can be tough, there’s no way around that. However, you’re not alone in your efforts to conceive, and you’d be surprised by how many ladies out there have their own unique struggles, questions, and fears.

One of the simplest ways to connect with moms-to-be and women in similar positions as you would be to join a trying to conceive forum where women share their experiences, provide support to one another, and build a community. In addition to your family and friends, this is a brilliant way to expand your support network and get in touch with other amazing women who will help you find the best possible strategies to cope and be more positive.

Find ways to enjoy your relationship

Finally, when you’re trying to conceive, your relationship takes on an entirely new dimension, one where you schedule intercourse, take your temperature, and other intricate details of the baby-making process. It adds some stress into the whole shebang. However, when you treat sex like a chore and a source of stress, it can impact your relationship and unravel an avalanche of negative situations that will further cause you stress.

Instead, why not date your spouse? Why not reignite that passionate fire, spice things up, go out for a fancy dinner, dance with each other, get intimate, laugh, kiss, bond? All of these things will help you unwind, get closer to your partner, de-stress, and ultimately help you once again fall madly in love with the baby-making process.

Although there’s no cookie-cutter mindset-maker here, you can do so much in search of greater positivity while you’re trying to conceive. The process is one that combines bliss and stress, but you can definitely find more ways to evoke positivity in your mind rather than dwell on the things you cannot change for the time being. Use these tips and enjoy your journey as much as possible!