Loving Yourself Is The Right Thing To Do

Loving Yourself Is The Right Thing To Do We have been told so much about self-love that it becomes cliché and yet, on a daily basis, I interact with women who are withholding love from themselves. They have plenty to give to others (family, friends, and clients), and yet they are falling short on utilizing the greatest tool that the Divine has given us — love! At the beginning of this year, I committed to attracting/receiving my ideal mate.  Of course what has been really happening is I have been on a journey of self-love and discovery. It is your right to experience whole and complete love of the universe within you.  This feeling of oneness with the universe is what I believe we are talking about when we talk about self-love. As you begin this journey, I suggest that you ask a couple of questions.

1. How committed are you to your journey of love?

Meaning, are you willing to let go of control and all those illusions that are keeping you in the illusions of feeling safe?

2. Why are you taking the journey of self-love?

   

Is the intention to get something or someone?   When you take action based on “I do this so I can get this” attitude, your starting place is based in conditions.  This attitude will create obstacles to self-love.  That mindset is still you looking outside for love and not within. [Tweet “How committed are you to your journey of love?”]

3. Are you willing to experience the truth?

Self-love requires honesty, being without judgment and a compassionate directness. So I’m going to assume that you said yes to the above questions.  The next step is to evaluate how and where you are withholding love.

1. Do you feel conflict with your body?

If you answered yes, take some time to journal about this conflict and to ask your body how you can offer it love more.  

2. Do you have feelings of unworthiness?

If you answered yes, journal about how this feeling is creating certain experiences in your life.  

3. Are you utilizing shopping, food, work, drugs, alcohol, exercise and/or sex to fill you with a sense of joy, peace and after you don’t feel satisfied?

If your answered yes, journal about how filling yourself with love could transform this pattern. Now you have an idea of where you are in loving yourself. Traditionally, we would spend a lot of time talking about what caused these patterns of non-self-love.  Sometimes finding the root is appropriate while other times you can just turn to loving yourself. What I suggest is to tap into the infinite power of your soul and your connection with the Divine to activate the love that is within you. The process to do that is very simple.

• Take a deep breath
• Focus on your tailbone
• Repeat the statement below out loud
• “Divine Intelligence, activate the unconditional love in my heart.” (You might feel your shoulders relax and an opening in the chest area. Once you have felt the opening of your heart, then move onto the next bullet)
• “Divine Intelligence, offer this unconditional love in my heart to myself, my body and my life fully and completely.

Did you feel a sense of deep love and peace? [Tweet “Did you feel a sense of deep love and peace?”] You just took a big step on the journey of self-love. Now you get to notice when you’re not in this place of feeling love in your body and pause and reactivate the love inside you. I suggest starting and ending your day with this exercise.  Throughout the day, you might consider tuning into your heart and simply asking, “Is this action, thought, way of being, and/or relationship creating love within me and my life?” This question will allow you to select experiences that contribute to your self-love.  Keep in mind, it’s all practice.  So allow yourself the freedom and the permission to love yourself fully and completely.