Why Not Me

Why Not Me

At some point in our life, we begin to doubt our worth and value to the world; we see this in the job we’re considering applying for, the relationships we’re in, and the hobby we’re considering turning into a business. It manifests itself in our relationships when we question whether we are worthy or good enough for him to marry us, and it manifests itself in our parenting when we question whether we are good mothers, whether our children will still love us as they grow older, or whether we have done everything we can for them. This is an unavoidable question, but we must also inquire as to why we feel and think the way we do. Why do we mistrust our worth for the work for which we are qualified and the relationship for which we are deserving? This is something I’ve come to terms with on my own path of self-doubt and inquiry. I have faced rejection in both my personal and professional life. I’ve never encountered somebody who takes pleasure in rejection. Rejection is described as pushing something or someone away. What I’ve learned is that rejection does not always imply failure; you did not fail because you were rejected from that position or relationship, and while it’s natural to blame ourselves, we must take a different perspective. I truly believe that God keeps some things from happening to us because he already sees and knows our destiny; therefore, when a job rejects me, as painful as it is, I focus on the knowledge that something greater is out there waiting for me. Denial does not imply “No;” rather, it means that something better awaits you and that you must retain your faith. We can’t always see the good when all we see is negativity, rejection, and denial, which alters our perspective and causes us to believe we’re not good enough and doubt our purpose. As someone who has traveled this path, I understand personally how it may leave you feeling wounded, unsatisfied, and wondering your identity and purpose in life. I’ve struggled for years with my self-worth, whether it’s pursuing that job or respecting myself sufficiently to see that I deserve more and why not me? Why am I unable to be qualified for that position and demand what I have worked so hard to obtain? This type of self-doubt, I realized, is motivated by fear, and fear will drive you nuts intellectually and emotionally, leaving you hollow on the inside. Fear of rejection is not a bad thing; instead, it is a sign that something more significant is on the way. You simply need to shift your attitude to believe that failure is a necessary component of growth and that you can leverage your failures to accomplish the very thing that you failed at, because rejection has an unlocked reward. Every day, I seek to unlock the potential within me, and I use these ten steps to help me understand how fear can be used to create a better self.

Ten Techniques

1. Change your thinking; our words have power, and what we say to ourselves is significant; therefore, it is critical to pour positivity into yourself and use affirmation to help you develop the confidence to speak amazing things to yourself.
2. Seek for a mentor or coach; this is critical and occasionally essential, and I am not ashamed to admit that I have a mentor, career coach, and spiritual counselor who support me in navigating this thing called life. Life usually takes unexpected turns, and hearing another perspective frequently provides insight into difficulties you might have overlooked previously. You can gain understanding and emotional support, which are typically avoided.
3. Discover your strengths and talents; investigate and actively pursue your hobbies and interests; and don’t be afraid to go out and do something you enjoy.
4. Concentrate on your purpose; what is your why, and use this approach to uncover who you are
5. Accept failure but do not let it define you; embracing failure does not mean you should become caught in it, but rather that you should use your failure to motivate you to continue. Persist in the face of adversity because today’s adversity will become tomorrow’s prosperity.
6. Concentrate on the minor triumphs; it is the small victories that lead to the greatest blessings and breakthroughs; we may not immediately receive everything we seek, but it is the small victories that lead to the greatest blessings and breakthroughs.
7. Create a strategy; begin by outlining your vision and objectives, as well as a few of the tasks you wish to complete. Begin with a 90-day target and work your way up to a one-year plan, two-year plan, three-year plan, and so on. This will assist you in achieving those small victories and milestones, as well as keeping you on track with your own goals.
8. Being open and honest with yourself throughout this process is crucial to mastering your fears and unlocking your desires. Additionally, it develops courage when you are required to set aside your pride and seek assistance.
9. Acclimate to being uncomfortable- When we grow too comfortable in a position, whether it be a job/role, relationship, or friendship, we become stagnant in that position. To fully progress, we must occasionally move outside our comfort zone, rely on our faith, and take calculated risks and chances.
10. Continue to speak over yourself, developing positive habits and self-talk. This step is more difficult than we believe because it means that when that small voice within us wants to have self-doubt, fear, anxiety, and low confidence, we must silence those negative voices and speak positive affirmations over our lives that will strengthen us and help us live a meaningful and purposeful life.