our daily lives is make choices. Choices consist of
selecting from options that are presented before us—this or that or the
other. When you make a choice, you’re ultimately not responsible
for the outcomes because it really wasn’t your decision.
You just had to choose from the options that were presented before you.
There wasn’t much thought given to what happens after you make
the choice. Usually you make the choice and then move on from
there. At the next crossroads, you make another choice, and so on.
choice” when encountered with a difficult situation? (You
usually hear this when they did something that caused someone else a
great deal of pain or inconvenience.)
that are presented. You are simply choosing which of the outcomes you
prefer to deal with—or not deal with—as the case may be.
any of the outcomes that come with them for the simple fact that they
weren’t involved in making the decision that led up to the choice.
you don’t feel in control. You feel as if there’s still
some doubt—as if the other option still might be better.
and you say “I think I’ll choose the fish.” Do you sound
certain about that? Is that your final answer?
own business” or “chosen to go back to school” or
even that you’ve “chosen to take the day off”, do you find that
they question you?
problem is in your choice of words and actions.
concrete. They bring with them a feeling of being in control; of finality
of someone who knows what they want and will not be questioned or
all of the possible outcomes; examined the situation from all angles;
understand all of the variables involved and that you come to the best
conclusion possible and determined that this is the course of
action that you will take as a result.
for the outcomes.
be questioned, because there is no doubt and nothing left to be explored.
your life, while making choices is reaction to circumstances.
decisions instead of choices.
have decided to have the fish.” How do you feel as a
result? What do you believe the impression is this time as opposed to
your own business” or “decided to go back to school” or
even that you’ve “decided to take the day off”, do you find that
they question you now?
decision—not a choice. You must make a decision to be different.
You have to decide to find those things that fuel your passion; align with your
purpose and build your legacy. You have to decide that you are committed
to be what you need to become in order release all that you are and are meant
author. She wears two hats-as the founder and Executive Director of The
KARS Institute for Learning & Collaboration, a nonprofit organization whose
mission is to provide training, resources and support to nonprofits, community
organizations, churches, schools and small businesses–and also the founder and
managing consultant of The KARS Group, LTD, which specializes in providing
personal and professional strategic development services to small businesses,
organizations and individuals. Ms. Rivers Shorty is a grant writer,
adjunct instructor, former foundation executive director, educator and
administrator. She is a motivational and inspirational speaker and
published author. She is currently launching her women’s tour
“Released & Ready!” in summer 2013 which helps women to fuel
their passion, align with their purpose and build their legacy. Find out
more about Keisha at www.releasedandready.com or www.karsgroup.com or
find her on facebook.
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